Why am i so picky when it comes to dating
Don't want to mess up my next marriage, but want to settle down with just one woman.
Why am I so picky about whom I want to date and the bar so high?
Having been through a divorce, you just might have more insight into things you know you can't compromise on when it comes to potential partners. I think early in relationships a lot of people overestimate their ability to compromise on certain issues and underestimate the importance of other issues that turn out to be deal breakers.
Having been through a divorce, you just might have more insight into things you know you can't compromise on when it comes to potential partners. I agree with both of you and realize that compromising is harder when you are set in your ways and don't get me started on children.
I've been dating for a year since divorce, and I"ve tried to be really openminded even when I felt that I date had something going on that would be a dealbreaker in a committed relationship. It's exhausting to date a lot of people, and to keep going out with people you aren't that excited about.
I would say, put yourself in situations where you can meet available people, but beyond that it's okay to just let it happen naturally even if it takes a long time. I think early in relationships a lot of people overestimate their ability to compromise on certain issues and underestimate the importance of other issues that turn out to be deal breakers.
Healthy Picky: You’re careful about who you get involved with, taking things slowly in the beginning, not moving into the bedroom too quickly, and remaining on guard for a couple months or so until you have a sense of who this new person really is.
In between relationships, you take some time off and reflect on why the last relationship didn’t work, and after a while you resolve those issues and begin a fresh relationship with someone new.
My heart goes out to those men and women who have spent years being extremely picky — aka too afraid — because I believe they have missed out on a lot of the comfort that can come with a long-term relationship.
So you refuse to settle for less than you deserve since you know that life is much too short to waste time on a relationship that is leading nowhere.
You are no longer an irresponsible kid who lives for the moment.
For most people, they wade into relationships with the usual caution, knowing they might get hurt and that they will be seen in all their glory — flaws and all.
Nevertheless, the possibility that the relationship could be a good and comforting one makes it worth the risk.