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My filter settings are pretty generous—if you have a compatibility rating of higher than 70 percent, are of at least “average” attractiveness, and send more than a three-word message—“Hey” and “Yo girl” are not acceptable—your message will make it to me.
(Filters are common—especially for women, who often receive a high number of lewd or casual messages from spam profiles, and generic messages from men who send the same note to a swath of profiles.) Of the 708 messages I received over the next fourteen months, 530 ended up in the filtered inbox, which left me with about one message of decent-or-above quality a day.
I’m also a musician (some of my work is available on i Tunes); a dancer; and a volunteer with various sports organizations.
At first glance, my resumé and accomplishments may loom large, but I had thought that my well-roundedness would be an asset, or at least of interest, to the sort of man I was seeking. I posted a link to my profile on Bunz Dating Zone, a Toronto Facebook group, asking for honest feedback.
A message from a prospective mate every day may sound like a lot.
But given the extremely low probability that any given message will lead to a serious relationship, it’s not.
Over the following months, I would play with this slightly: I variously described myself as a dreamer, book lover, learner, educator, and writer, someone who views the world with a glass half-full of optimism and a dash of sarcasm.
On the day I completed my profile, I received one message; four more appeared over the next two days.You may also start talking to someone only to realize that you are no longer interested in getting to know them better.It can take many exchanges to get to a real live date.I would take the time to read a guy’s profile and then mention common interests or things I found interesting, posing an easy question for him at the end—but I still received few responses.Of the messages that did make it to my inbox, many were from men who were not a good match for me.